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30 Day Sugar Cleanse

8 Jul


For the second consecutive month, I am doing a sugar cleanse.  Now, when you hear cleanse, you may have thoughts of expensive green juice, complicated diets, colonics and frequent trips to the restroom.

Honestly, that’s just way too hard for me.  I just want to be a little healthier, and help my kids be healthy and happy as well.  And, I need a little accountability!

Here’s what I do…  don’t eat any refined or processed sugar.  Now, I am not perfect, but for me, I define this as no sugary sweets or desserts.  We eat tons of fruit, and I know that sugar is added to many foods that we don’t even realize contain sugar.  But, I’m busy so I’m all about making healthy choices that are easy to define and follow for me and my family.

What do I do?

I keep a box under my desk at work with healthy snacks. Right now, I have almonds and crackers.  Going to the store today to stock up on more.  This week, I plan to take yogurt, cheese, and some fruit to snack on.  (Yes, these contain some sugar, but the overall health benefits outweigh the negative impact of the sugar.  Right?!  Remember, my definition is no sugary desserts and sweets.)

I stock my pantry and refrigerator with healthy food and snacks.  I’m just not going to buy the junk.  That way, it isn’t convenient.  I already freed my pantry and refrigerator for June so that’s already done.

Have you done this before?  What are some tips and tricks you have to stick with it?

Thanks for coming along on my journey.



2 Jul

Let’s be honest here… Life is wonderful and magical and delightful.  Life is also full of tragedy and heartache and pain.  It’s agonizing and amazing all at once.

My son is having a difficult time.  His behavior can be a challenge.  I worry about him ALL OF THE TIME.  He is a wonderful child – smart, creative, funny, kind, helpful, loving.  But at the same time, he can be impulsive and angry and disruptive.

My ex and I do not get along well.  Oh, we try to in front of the kids.  I try really hard to make it look like everything is fine.  We don’t co-parent as well as we could. The kids are onto it.  They know.  You can cut the tension with a knife.


Healthy living

It’s time for change… for all of us.

I’ve made a list of things I am going to work on in the next 6 months to help to improve our lives, our health and our family.  I started a “no sugar” diet for the month of June and I did okay.  I cheated some, but overall did well.  I have more energy, feel better and my legs and belly are a little smaller, too.  I’m doing it again for July.

  1. Address my work commute.  My office and my home are too far away, and it keeps me away from home too long during the day.
  2. Address our health and nutrition.  I have replaced all cleaners and skincare and cosmetics with non-toxic products.  Next, we need to focus on the chemicals and toxins in our food.  My son and I both have a sweet tooth so this is going to be hard!
  3. Address the relationship with my ex-husband to allow us to co-parent better.
  4. Address my son’s difficulty and anger.  Much of the above will help.

Thank you for joining my journey.



I’m Back!

14 Jan

Hi!  It’s been almost 4 years since I have written on this blog!  I’m back and am so happy to be writing here again!  I’ve really missed this blog.

Let me catch you up on where my life is today.  I have aged a few years since my last writing!  So have my kids. No diapers, no bottles and no more baby food in this house!  Some things are so much easier, but I miss my babies!  I love my child, and my emerging adult so much!  Now, we have independence, privacy, hormones, constantly changing emotions, homework, friends in and out, cell phones, drama!  It’s crazy busy and so much fun to watch them grow up!

I left that crappy job for one I love.  I miss working from home, but being in the office and around people was just what I needed at the time.  I love my job and feel fortunate to have had an opportunity to do lots of different things there.

I feel like I have a part-time job as a chauffeur to my children – taking them to practices and parties and friends and events and…  the list never ends!  And the logistical coordination of all of this sometimes makes me crazy!!

I have developed a great support network of friends for me and my kids.  With no family within  250 miles, a great network of friends has been invaluable for me.  They help me out and I help them out.

What I have learned in these last few years has been incredible though.  I really don’t define myself as a single mom, even though I am.  I am a full time mom just like any other mom.  I am a working mom, just like many moms.

I had some hard times, just like every single person in this world.  Your hard times aren’t like mine, but we all have hard times.  And, we all have great times.   I have learned to accept that we aren’t trying to avoid the hard times, because the hard times will come.  We get stronger through them and dig ourselves out with hard work and tenacity and focus and determination and grit and tears. And we make it to the other side stronger and different.

I’ve learned to see the beauty in grief and loss and change.  It’s part of our human being… to experience all of the good and bad that life gives us.  It’s up to us to get through it. It’s hard as hell.  And, it’s wonderful and beautiful and messy and hard and gut-wrenching, at times.

I’ve learned to be more appreciative and to enjoy the good times.

I have learned to enjoy this messy life that I have.


Olympics 2012

28 Jul

I love the Olympics.  I mean, I love the Olympics! 

I watched the Opening Ceremony last night, swimming and biking this morning, and volleyball this afternoon.  Volleyball isn’t my favorite, but still, I just love watching these amazingly talented athletes represent their countries so well.  I cannot wait to watch women’s gymnastics tomorrow… and the diving, and synchronized swimming, and track and field…  It is all just so exciting.

Lots of mixed reviews of the opening ceremony last night.  I liked it overall; I thought it was kind of boring, but was amazed at all of the people and the synchronicity of all of the people, moving parts, changing themes.

Loved the Queen and James Bond! (Photo from Digital Trends)

That entrance sequence was priceless!

And, David Beckham.  Oh my!  (Photo taken from the Mirror)

I mean, really, he is HOT!

In control: The LA Galaxy footballer took the experience in his stride and smiled throughout

The Olympics are just so exciting and inspiring!  I love seeing the athletes and hearing their stories.  It makes me remember that we can all do great things – whatever that looks like for us.  It doesn’t take privilege or opportunity.  It takes a goal, heart, hard work and dedication.

And, I am so proud of myself because I achieved something fairly significant this weekend.  The TV in our family room is terrible.  There are increasing number of white dots appearing on the screen; it’s gonna be $750.00 to repair.  Needless to say, the TV will not be repaired.  It is getting so bad that it is difficult to watch.  The only other TV in our house is in my bedroom.  My TV is connected to DVD, but I don’t have a cable box in my room.  So, I found a co-axial cable, connected it from the wall to the TV, programmed the TV to find the stations… and, voila.  I have TV in my room.  So, I’ve loved watching the Olympics from the comfort of my bed!  I only get a few network channels, but that’s fine with me.  I only need a couple.  I was so proud of myself; I am not technologically inclined.

Learning new things, trying to be more independent, inspired by Olympians!

Welcome to my journey!


Road Trip!

10 Jan

Goodness, I have been MIA for a few days!  So sorry about that!  I went out of town for the weekend with the kids to see my brother and his family.  My nephew turned three on Friday so we had a fun, family celebration! 

Interesting conversation I had while I was there.  My great aunt was asking about how I did the road trip with the two kids by myself – something very normal in our family.  I’ve been traveling alone with the kids since my oldest was a few weeks old.  Anyway, she asked me if we have DVD players for them to watch to keep them quiet.  I told her that we do have them in a pinch, but I generally prefer not to allow my kids to watch movies in the car… even when the talking will not end.  That was sort of the end of the conversation, but as I have been reflecting on my kids and my life (as I do a lot these days), I have come to realize that those road trips are when we have our most important conversations.  It’s where I receive and answer questions… tough questions.  Questions like this…

  • Mommy, why do grown ups not love each other as much as they love their children?
  • How long do Cupid’s powers last after he shoots you with an arrow?  (You can imagine the conversation which ensued thereafter, with her hopes of having Cupid shoot me and soon-to-be-ex-husband so we would fall back in love forever).
  • How do babies get out of their mommy’s tummy?
  • What does God look like?
  • How old is God?
  • Why do some children not have a daddy? 

Of course, I don’t have the answer to all of these questions; some don’t even have answers.  But, I always respond to my kids.  I always engage in conversation about their questions.  Each of these questions is difficult to answer (ok, not technically the question about Cupid, but I knew where that question was headed).  But the learning for all of us comes from talking about what the answers could be.  Sometimes, there is no answer.

The list goes on and on, but these questions and the conversations which follow always happen during a road trip.  Never at home.  Never running errands.  Never at the park.  Always on a road trip.

My intent on not watching movies in the car (on a regular basis, at least) was so that my kids could see all there is to see on the road.  Read signs, look at cars, make shapes with the clouds.  And more importantly… learn to wait.  Learn to have some patience.  Learn to entertain themselves. 

My kids are great travelers.  They behave themselves; they know how to behave when they get bored.  They know where to find toys and snacks in the car and/or on the plane.  They make conversation.  They play pretend.  They talk/make noise incessently.  They ask poingnent questions, and engage in important dialogue.  They think.  They make me think.  What an amazing gift I have received in just trying to teach my kids to have a little patience!  I look forward to these conversations; the answers are difficult, if not impossible, but the discussion that follows is important and is thought provoking and I am honored to be part of it.

Welcome to my journey!